they say it's not the end of the world but it sure feels like it

[simplyn2deep]

Today we finally sat down with the pre-arrangement counselor with a local mortuary to decide on and put a down payment on my dad's "final" arrangements.

The Doctor and nurse with hospice don't believe my dad's condition is going to improve. The neurologist told my dad's doctor that the blood clot in his brain is larger than he initially thought but it's still too deep, thus making it inoperable. So my dad is basically going to be on blood thinner medication the rest of his life. If he has another stroke, it could be one that he doesn't recover from. My dad has DRN (do not resuscitate) papers on record.

So, we contacted a local mortuary last week, got some information, then we were going to shop around, but the news from the doctor and my dad's increased lack of strength and frequent bouts of confusion, we opted to go with the only one we talked to.

But it's all settled. One less thing to worry about, but at the same time, one more thing to worry about as it's another bill we have to pay (for the next 5 years or until my dad dies).

I told my mom that as soon as I got a job, we could start on her arrangements. The counselor suggested it so that we can get a lower price now as opposed to years later when prices are higher.

Comments

[rocsfan.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Although, it is very smart to make arrangements ahead of time. I was quite young when my parents died, but I remember all of the difficulty involved in arrangements. It was expensive and confusing, and I think it would be no matter what your age. But you poor kid! All of this was so unexpected for you!

[simplyn2deep.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I remember telling people that when it came time to have to care for my parents, it would be up to my siblings because I've lived with and dealt with them enough that it was time to live my life.

And then this happens and I'm still at home and helping my mom with my dad and my siblings are out living their lives...still.