I don't think it's an issue if you choose not to go the day of the surgery. Now if things don't go as planned and he needs to stay, perhaps consider a visit at that point. Otherwise I'd say no one should give you a hard time for not going. There isn't much you could do anyway you would only be allowed to see him after he was prepped, and then when he was out of anesthesia and getting ready to be released. I've had enough surgeries I know the drill so to speak lol!

There was one time I was in the ER and a woman came in screaming that her mother wasn't breathing in the car. The orderlies carried her in and they worked on her for about 45 minutes. The feelings I felt were inexplicable honestly. I was anxious, sad, scared, etc. When they came out and told the daughter she had passed I had known it all along it just was something I knew it was kinda creepy. When they took me past her room to go to a triage room I was like PLEASE HURRY. I just didn't like it at all.