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My mom has a new 'do! I think it's a bit on the drastic side, both in style and color, but it sort of suits her.

lookin' good mom! )

Then, in the best news this week, MY KITTY CAME BACK!!! Like, she found her way back on her own!

welcome home, Ms Marple! )

I walked out of the living room to my bedroom and laid on the bed, then 2 mins later, Kim is all "Lizet! Come quick! I think Ms Marple is back!"

So I go back to the living room, and sure enough I hear her meow on the other side of the screen door! I turned on the light and opened the door and had to coax her back in, but she wouldn't come, so I picked her up and brought her in.

Kim, of course, is crying and going on like she did last week when I found out Ms Marple got out.

My kitty looks fine, if a little lighter from likely not eating every day for a week. And she doesn't run away from me when I pick her up. I wonder how long that will last.

But SHE'S BACK! I guess she got tired of roaming the neighborhood and decided to come back. Too bad I didn't have a cam on her to see all the places she'd gone to and the people she'd seen during her week adventure.

I have to get her a new collar though - she's lost her's. I hope I can get a replacement chip tag with her chip ID number on it. I know I can get another regular tag with her name and my cell phone number, but I'd also like to get that chip tag too.
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I got a call from the mortuary. They got a date from Riverside National Cemetery. The next available date for services is December 1 at 1:45 pm.

HOLY COW! That's in 12 days away and 20 days after his death!

I get it's first come, first serve kind of thing, but it just seems like too much time. Make me want to find out how many services a day they do that's given us a date that's so far away.

But I'm also assuming that since things have gone forward, that the mortuary got their money from the life insurance my mom had through her job and that by the end of this month we should be getting the remaining money. I also need to go to the Social Security office with my mom to sort out the survivors benefits stuff my mom should be getting from my dad's social security, but we can't do that until we get the death certificate.
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Today's my Dad's memorial/funeral service.

After the service we're going over to my mom's cousin's house for lunch. I really really don't want to. So many thing I don't want to do but will because I don't want people to tell me anything.

One day I'll feel more like an adult and can feel comfortable telling people in my family no and stick to it.

My apartment is filled with people. I shared a room with my mom. I just want to sleep/veg away.

My friend thinks I might be a little bit depressed. I know I was over summer, I probably still could be.

Jasmine and I are going to get somewhat matching tattoos in honor of my dad (her grandpa) the next time we get money.
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My dad passed away about 45 minutes ago (2:30 am California time). We're waiting for our hospice nurse/doctor to come and "confirm" his death.

Family has been called and we've told closer friends, but I still "feel" the need to tell people. I haven't posted anything to facebook or twitter yet. I did update my rp tumblr, which I don't know why, really. But they know now.
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We have been told to discontinue giving him all food/liquids since he is unable to swallow and if we try to give him anything, he could choke. He is also being switched to a pain patch to make him comfortable. With the discontinuation of food/liquids, the doctor says that we shouldn't expect him to live past 7 days. We will be sent a nurse to be with us/him 24/7 until he passes away.

I've called my brother, sister and aunt and sent an email to our Pastor. My aunt is going to call her siblings (she's my dad's sister) to let them know. I haven't actually been able to get a hold of my sister, but I left her a message asking to call me back when she gets the chance.

My mom is calling the rest of the family (her side) to let them know.
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The last few days have been trying for me, to say the least. Drama, people trying to start drama, people treating my dad like a baby instead of an adult or not taking cues from those who care for him (my mom and me). THE DAMN CAKE WAS ALMOST DROPPED 3 TIMES TAKING IT BACK AND FORTH TO SHOW MY DAD!

I just wanted to stay in my room and pop out when pictures needed to be taken. Thankfully I was able to do that with minimal fussing from family. (Later I have a story about the drama with my 2 aunts and me being in the middle).

Anyway, some pictures from the day (and yesterday) and a quick (less than 30 second) video of us singing Happy Birthday.

some family pics )

now party time pictures )

and a video. it should play for everyone since I made it public. let me know if it works or not. thanks.
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pic behind cut )

Here's a pic of the family! From left to right is me, my sister Andrea, my mom Mary, my brother Richard, my nephew Marlin, my niece Jasmine and my dad Richard.

My brother has been here since Friday afternoon. Saturday my sister roped my brother into helping her clean out her storage unit. Yesterday they (mom and brother) went to church with my sister and I stayed home with dad. We had pizza for lunch and dinner. Don't know what we're doing for eats today.

Not pictured in the above family picture are my sister in law Nieves and nieces Marta & Daniela. They couldn't be here because today they started the 4th grade! Marta is on the left (the shorter of the two) and Daniela is on the right.

big picture of Marta & Daniela on their first day school )
Anyway, brother leaves tomorrow morning to go back to Florida. Sadly he'll miss them leaving for their 2nd day of school, but my sister in law is great at posting pictures on FB for all of us to see.
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My aunt in Oregon (the one taken off dialysis earlier this month) died about 40 mins ago.

If I remember correctly, the doctors were giving her 3-10 day once they took her off dialysis, but it was something like 19 days. I know my Aunt was a fighter. From what I remember of her, she fought her health issues for years before she finally went on dialysis, but that seemed to make her worse until the doctors gave the news that she couldn't continue with it because she had no more viable veins.

So my mom is calling her family to tell them, so far is seems like they already know because my cousins have called.

This news has been a bucket of ice water on what had been a fantastic afternoon full of behind the scenes H50 pics from season 5 filming.

I want to be in a happy mood again
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Today we finally sat down with the pre-arrangement counselor with a local mortuary to decide on and put a down payment on my dad's "final" arrangements.

The Doctor and nurse with hospice don't believe my dad's condition is going to improve. The neurologist told my dad's doctor that the blood clot in his brain is larger than he initially thought but it's still too deep, thus making it inoperable. So my dad is basically going to be on blood thinner medication the rest of his life. If he has another stroke, it could be one that he doesn't recover from. My dad has DRN (do not resuscitate) papers on record.

So, we contacted a local mortuary last week, got some information, then we were going to shop around, but the news from the doctor and my dad's increased lack of strength and frequent bouts of confusion, we opted to go with the only one we talked to.

But it's all settled. One less thing to worry about, but at the same time, one more thing to worry about as it's another bill we have to pay (for the next 5 years or until my dad dies).

I told my mom that as soon as I got a job, we could start on her arrangements. The counselor suggested it so that we can get a lower price now as opposed to years later when prices are higher.
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 1. just now, well more like an hr ago now, my neighbor told my parents that she would come by more often to help with his physical therapy. Apparently she's months away from finishing her physical therapist degree or whatever. I'm like GREAT! If she can help my mom during the day, I won't feel so out of sorts should I find a job and work during the day.

2-a. my sister called to ask if I wanted to go whale watching with her. She has an extra ticket because Marlin didn't want to go. AWESOME! I've never been whale watching before! I mean, I saw some whales when I went on a cruise to Mexico several years ago, but that was purely by chance. I hope to see some on this trip. We're going to leave in about 2 hours to go to Newport Beach (which will forever remind me of the TV show The OC) for it. Pictures will definitely be shared later. I hope I don't get a nasty tan from this. sun block does nothing to help me from burning or tanning when I'm in the sun for a long time

2-b. We had a scheduled appointment with a prearrangement counselor from the mortuary we decided on but since my sister and I will both be unavailable for it today, the lady said she would call and give us another time on Wednesday or Thursday afternoon.

3. I have an interview with the LA County DA's office out of the Norwalk Courthouse on Monday! OMG!! A few weeks ago, I got a call from them, but the 2 locations were too far for me to get to (nearly 2 hours by bus, if that!) and the lady I spoke with said she would keep my name on the list for anything closer to me. Since my degree goal is within the law/legal field, I would love for anything with the Sheriff's Department or the District Attorney's office. I get the chills just thinking about it.
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 Today my dad had an appointment for Access Transportation and while we were waiting for them, my dad became unresponsive!

Since we're on hospice care, we don't call the traditional 911, we call the hospice's version of 911 and tell them what happened. So we did that and they walked me through what had to be done (get him back into the apartment, back into bed and give him oxygen. While we were struggling to get him back in the apartment, I heard my dad start to snore. Okay, he's asleep...but why isn't he responding when we call his name?

We have the oxygen going, but it's a struggle for me and my mom to get him into bed, so we're waiting for the emergency nurse to come. They're "local" and they said in emergencies, they can have someone to us within the hour. It's been about 30 minutes now and I'm going from my room to the front door looking for someone to come.

Meanwhile, my mom is still trying to wake my dad and we still have the oxygen going for him.

eta 1: It's 1:20pm and the nurse has been here about 20 minutes. She got my dad to respond and helped us get him back into bed. His blood pressure is really low, but oxygen levels are high. the nurse said he basically passed out bc this was the first time in about a week that we got him out of bed and into the chair for an extended period of time.

eta 2: He's doing better now. It's been nearly 2 hours since this all started. He's sleeping but was asking for something to eat so I need to put on proper clothes and pick up some beef stew and chicken/turkey pot pies.
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Idea come to life! A couple of weeks ago I mentioned to my mom about wanting to have a family picture with my dad on Father's Day and to have someone take it. At the time, I was under the impression that he was still going to be at the healthcare facility and not at home.

Well, as you saw from the picture I posted on Friday, my dad is home so we had the picture take here. With the wonders of modern technology (aka timer on the camera) we got a picture taken...and it only took 2 tries!

picture )
In the back, it's me, my mom, my sister, Marlin and Jasmine and obviously my dad in the bed.
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see more... )

I don't think any other words are needed!
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I'd been saying over and over how much I wanted Jury Duty and how I hated that I had to postpone my service twice.

Well, I got what I wished for...and it's ruined my plans.

All this week I've been on call, where I had to call the jury service number or check online to see if the following day I have to report. I just had this feeling that tomorrow, Friday, I'd have to report to downtown Los Angeles and sure enough, I have to be in the jury room at 7:30 am!

1. What kind of holy hell madness is that?!

2. since I'm on public transportation, I have to leave at 5am to ensure I get there on time. I'm like the Dame of navigating public transportation and I figured out that if I drove the car to the train station, I can get the 5:30 train, then 6am bus and by 650am, I would be getting off the stop in front of the courthouse. That would leave me 30 minutes or so, to get to the jury room.


This also means my plans are all screwed up in regards to how my dad was getting home tomorrow from the Healthcare facility. He'll still be checking out at 3pm, but the plan was for me to stay home and my mom to be at the facility and to be brought home by my sister with my dad's belongings. Now that has to change. My mom is going to stay home (when she finishes with her appointment) and my sister, if she's finished with her sub work, is going to go to the facility, get all my dad's things while he's transported, by ambulance, home and my mom, with the nurses/doctor/social worker, will being the intake process.

There's still a possibility, though, that when I get to the courthouse, I could not get called for a case and be able to leave by noon and be back home by 2pm so my mom could deal with my dad and his belongings.

Yes, let's cross our fingers that it happens this way - that I'll be home by 2pm so that we can stick to our original plan.

a picture

Jun. 12th, 2014 02:00 pm
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The equipment we'd need for when my dad gets home arrived today and was set up (by a cute delivery guy!), then he showed me how to use everything.

Here's a picture of the bedroom just waiting for my dad to come!

the picture )

Now I have to look for sheets for it and the pillows from their other bed.

Also, I have to go grocery shopping. I want to wait until it's cooler, but I don't want to wait too long or the store will close and/or I'll lose my parking spot.
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I'll have a rather upsetting update later today.

It's not earth-shattering devastating, but I'm still in this what about me?! phase (plight of being the youngest child and still living at home?)

So yeah, look forward to that and tell me how bad a person I am for thinking/feeling this way.
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 1. my ex brother-in-law is finally good for something! He's building a wheelchair ramp for when my dad eventually comes home! They measured on Thursday and bought the supplies yesterday. I think today or tomorrow it's going to be put in? I'm not sure. They might wait until we know for sure when my dad will be discharged to come home.

2. There's a program called
Access Paratransit and it's for people with disabilities to get around. Basically, there's an interview process and if you're approved, they will pick you up and take you to/from doctor appointments or different places you need to go. My dad is pretty much a shoe-in for being accepted since he's had the (TIA) strokes and he will be in a wheelchair and using a walker and we have such unreliable transportation. Access is also good on regular buses so when he gets better and wants to go out, he can use the regular bus and they will accept his Access pass card. June 12 they go for the interview or whatever. They will be picked up and it's a freakin' 3 hour process!

3. I spoke with my dad about 15 minutes ago. He said he just finished his physical therapy and he's feeling fine. He probably does feel fine, but it's going to take me a long time for my brain to stop saying "no you're not! you don't sound it" because that's not conducive to his feeling better and pushing (not overdoing it) to do well in physical therapy so that he can get better. Baby steps for me and him, that's for sure.

4. I don't have to worry about my dad wanting to do the election. Yesterday my mom called to tell me to call the county and tell them my dad can't do it. That he had a stroke and is in the hospital. Within an hour of me calling, someone was over to pick up all his supplies. I probably had to tell like 4 different people about why. One lady I spoke with was like "You know, the election is in a few days. He shouldn't have agreed..." I cut in and was like "He had a stroke HOURS ago. This wasn't something he PLANNED!" She was like, "...oh...I'm sorry to hear that. I hope he gets better." I was like, "Thank you. What's your name?" Once she gave it to me, I called back, asked to speak to the supervisor and explained what happened. What happens to this person, if anything, I don't know. But that was totally rude on her part.

I think that's everything up to date for my dad. I need to get busy with this stuff I have to do here before it gets too late/hot out.
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 I was getting ready to go see my dad at rehab and the nurse I was on hold with said therewere a lot of nurses around my dad and theymight be calling the paramedics. I called my sister since she was closer, got in the car and drove to the facility. As I got there I saw an ambulance and fire truck. My sister's suv was also there. The ambulance drove off and I thought my sister was with them but she was clearing his room.

Long story short, he was complaining that his leg was painful to the touch and his left dide was weaker.

We're at the hospital now. My sister is back with him. He was getting a chest x-ray. That was 15 mins ago and so far no update.
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I don't think my dad is being reasonable. he seems to think he'll still be able to work the election in 11 days.

Maybe he will. But the reality of it is that he's currently in the hospital, and as an inspector (his position with working the election), he has responsibilities he's supposed to take care of, but can't. My mom and I can't take care of them because we have our own responsibilities as election worker and inspector to take care of.

Sunday, inspectors are supposed to pick up their election equipment and make sure everything is there. He can designate someone else to pick up his supplies, but he won't be able to go through them to make sure he has everything he's supposed to have or make the necessary arrangements to get what he's missing. And like I said, I won't be able to do that since I'll have my own equipment to go through as an inspector for my own location, and my mom won't be able to go through it bc her training, as poll worker, doesn't cover it. Yes, there's a checklist with the supplies and it's pretty straight forward, but she shouldn't have to deal with it. She needs to be concentrating on what's going on with him.

Also, HE'S STILL IN THE HOSPITAL and even if he was released back to rehab, he'd likely be there another 7 days, won't be able to set up his polling area on June 2, let alone work the election 6am-9pm on June 3.

I don't want to go behind his back and call the County Clerk to let them know so other arrangements can be made, but I'm being realistic. I don't believe he'll be well enough to do what he's supposed to do in his position with this election. I told my mom to tell him that I was going to call, but I'm holding off on making the actual call until she gets there to tell him.

OH! And he's asking for my mom to bring all sorts of stuff for him to use - his laptop, some of his paperwork, and I'm like WTF! You're in the fucking hospital! You've had 3 TIA mini-strokes and are taking blood thinners! Don't you think you should rest and not put more stress on your body?! Taking the bills and his checkbook to him was one thing, but this is too much! And my mom still defers to him on things instead of putting her foot down and saying no!

eta: my mom pawned the job of telling my dad he shouldn't work the election to me. because I voiced my doubts about it, but she agreed. whatever
in the end it didn't matter. he's convinced he can do it. I'm just pissed enough to say to hell with it and let her deal with it


May. 22nd, 2014 05:15 pm
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The results of my dad's MRI came in.

He had a blockage and they're giving him blood thinners in hopes that they will allow the blood to flow.

He'll be in the hospital for another 24-48 hours while they monitor him with this new medication.

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